Met my ex fiancé on a FB group. Did a LDR for about 5 years with him coming to visit me often. He was mentally and emotionally abusive, and if he hadn’t been afraid of my mom, he probably would have been physically abusive, too. There were times when he acted like he was going to hit me but stopped himself when he realized my mom was in the other room, so he resorted to breaking shit and then blaming me for it.
Met a guy on a dating cult on VF after I left that first asshole. The guy constantly played with my head. Another LDR. We were “sort of but not really but still sort of a thing” for like a year, then he said “hey, you’ve been there for me while I mentally tortured you and made you feel inferior, so let’s date for real!” It lasted maybe 6 months. He met up with an old school friend after a while and decided to kick me to the curb because I “wasn’t working hard enough to close the gap.” I had lost my ok paying job, had to take a lesser paying job and had no vacation time, meanwhile he was the one with a good paying job, vacation time, etc. but wanted me to do all the work.
I’ve come across a plethora of creeps in between. The owner of my favorite bar (in his mid 60s) tried to match with me multiple times with different account on OKCupid, which makes going there very awkward now. Had guys ok OKC and other sites stalk me at work when I rejected them. A couple got weird because I made it clear that I’m not into flings, one night stands or poly relationships and got threatening when I told them to fuck off if that was all they were looking for. It was not fun.
I’m with my best friend now. I started off basically being the merch girl/groupie for his band. Now we’ve been together for a year and I’m happier than I’ve ever been.
In short, fuck online dating.